Some times in life, we come across some extremely difficult people. I’m not sure if it’s the full moon or not, but there are a bunch of crazies out. I’ve dealt with 2 so far this week and I’ve only left the house twice! This blog post comes to you on be half of those that decided that being mean was their only option and calling me names. Yes, I was called a bitch this week for simply, doing my job.
I decided to give you some tips on how to deal with these people, whether you are at work, home or just out in general public. Kinda makes it sound like your in a prison with that terminology. Too many crimes shows 😉
I hope you are able to use these tips and that they help you find some peace when you encounter one of these not so friendly people.
Try to control your emotional response.
I know it can be difficult to not react emotionally as we are humans and it’s part of our nature. But lets face it, if you are dealing with a difficult person who is upset themselves, it won’t help one bit for you to get just as upset or more. Controlling your emotional response is for the better. While in the moment, do your best to keep your composure. It’s okay to be mad and upset and rant and rave about it later. You’re allowed to feel all those things. It just doesn’t help or soothe any situation when you are letting your emotions get the better of you.
This goes with the first. Staying calm will help get down to the bottom of whatever the issue is or at the bare minimum, keep it from escalating. Especially if you are in a work environment, you don’t want to make things worse and make going to work uncomfortable. Same with a family members or friends.
Try to get down to the bottom of it, if you can.
Yes, try talking it out. Figure out why they may be mad. I know sometimes, depending on the situation, you may not be able to do so, such in the event that you are at work with a customer. But you can listen to them and maybe be able to figure out a solution that will at least soothe their ruffled feathers. Sometimes, all people want is someone to listen to them and their concerns, no matter how silly you think they are or they realize later.
Communication is key.
In a world of social media and cell phones, communication is almost a long lost skill. But it is still a skill everyone needs. Try to communicate your position the best you can. Using the above tips on staying calm and trying to figure out what the real problem is can go a long way.
Show the person respect.
This really should just be a given. I know that when people are being rather difficult it can be even more difficult for you to hold your tongue. It’s easy to get caught up in all the emotions but do you best to still show that person respect just as you would if it were your boss or your mother. Plus, there’s that “Golden Rule” thing…”Do unto others as you would have them do unto you” or something like that 😉
This can be a difficult one to try to do but do you best to act normally.
This can be accomplished easier when you stay calm and don’t let your emotions get the better of you. Though, I understand it can be rather difficult to do so. It’s not everyday you come in contact with people who are just mean and like to make your life hard. Unless you’re in collections, then maybe it’s an everyday thing while you’re on the clock.
This one is probably my favorite – talk to others.
Getting advice from others can truly help you see another side of things. I personally do this all the time. I’m always seeking others advice for various things that go on in my day to day life. Whether I’m inquiring about blogging or how to monetize my life 😉 or how to deal with my crazy kids. I’m always seeking advice and learning from it. It truly does open your eyes to how someone may be feeling or seeing things. You never know what someone has to offer from their own life experiences.
This one may be a new one to you as it’s still rather new to me – meditation.
Practicing meditation has so many health benefits that I seriously go on and on about, but I’ll save that for another day. Meditation can help you keep your emotions in check when you start to get caught up in them. Daily meditation practice can help you become more patient in your daily life and help you deal with difficult situations and people.
The last thing may not be the best option, but sometimes may be the only way to save your sanity, though I don’t recommend it – Ignore.
If you have tried absolutely everything, it’s best to ignore the person that is causing you distress. Now if it’s someone at work, you may not be able to actually ignore them but keep your cool and do your best to keep to yourself. If it’s a customer, defuse the situation by getting your manager if they are available or politely ask someone else if they can step in for you.
One more thing to remember. Difficult people may not be difficult generally. They may just be having a bad day. They could be going through a breakup, a death in the family, loss of a job, losing their house or simply just late for work. We all go through rough times and we all take it out on someone who doesn’t always deserve it. So try to remember that when you encounter someone that is just being a plain jerk. Also remember, some people are just assholes and there is nothing you can do about it. So save your sanity and just make sure that you are doing what you can to live a happier and healthier life.