Fit Vs. Skinny

Let’s talk about how to NOT set yourself up for disappointment.

Everyone wants to be skinny. It’s the main reason a lot of people start to exercise. To lose some weight, and then some more, and then just a little bit more. We’re never satisfied. Especially with those that are relatively new to fitness and eating healthy. It’s hard for us to finally be happy with what we have accomplished.

But, should skinny really be the ultimate goal of losing weight? I want to stop right here for a moment though. Some of us are just naturally skinny. We’re born that way. And others will have to work really hard to get to where we want to be and then even harder, to stay there. It all just depends on your body type and your metabolism.

Back to the skinny of getting skinny! Is “skinny” a realistic goal? I personally don’t believe it is. I say this because I used to be one of those people who tried really hard to be skinny. My focus was always on the scale and losing weight. But it never should have been that way. Finally, after becoming a coach, my focus shifted from losing weight, to getting fit and healthy. And this is why the whole process should shift to just being healthy. Healthy is sexy!!

Why your focus should be to ‘getting fit’

Let’s face it. Getting skinny isn’t a realistic goal in the long run. Getting to super model thin, is super hard to do and maintaining that is even harder. You end up actually messing up your metabolism in the process! You thought it was bad now, wait till you start getting crazy with the diets.

Getting healthy, is a far more measurable process – you can track your progress, take measurements, actually see changes in your body and how you feel, and not hold yourself up to the standards of a Victoria Secret model.

Psychologically, its actually the most important thing – working towards being healthy and fit is easier to work towards. One is a goal that is sustainable and can and will last a lifetime, and the other is a standard made by the media and supported by society. Which would you prefer?

If your ultimate goal is to just be skinny, then you are setting yourself up for a lifetime of failure and self doubt and disappointment. I’m not kidding when I say that. I’m really not. Being skinny isn’t realistic.

Other reasons getting fit will change your life

Overall health – Like I mentioned earlier. When you try super hard to be skinny by doing it the wrong way, you are damaging your body and your overall health and wellness. Most likely, you won’t be eating enough and you will be exercising too much. You’ll be grumpy and just not a nice person to be around. When your goal is to simply to get fit, you’ll be eating all the right foods, in the proper amounts, you will be exercising enough, and you will just feel balanced and healthy. Plus you will be seeing results like you never imagined. And chances are, you will have never been happier 😉

Your strength – This is one you probably have never thought about before. But your overall strength is increased. No, you won’t bulk up and getting all muscularly ripped (unless thats your goal haha) but you will just be stronger. Simple tasks around the house are much easier, you won’t be huffing and puffing after tying your shoes, or feel like you have ran a marathon after vacuuming. Did I mention that your mental and emotional strength will get stronger as well. Yep! Those will too! You will be doing things and accomplishing those things you never though you could.You will enjoy things in your life, so much more than you already do. 🙂

Your confidence –  This is HUGE!!!! Confidence plays a ginormous role in your daily life. Have you ever told someone you are shy or insecure. Did you know that is a label giving to you by someone else, probably in your childhood somewhere. It really is! Getting fit and healthy is a HUGE confidence boost! Especially if that was something you may have been insecure about in the first place. I challenge you to this. Instead of saying you are ‘shy’ or ‘insecure’ say that you are formally shy or insecure. That you are actively working on being a more confident person. The more you talk to yourself in a positive tone, the more you are going to believe and then ultimately, be it.

I know that in this day and age, there is a ton of quick fixes out there. Wraps, diet pills, diet shakes, etc. But the truth is, they won’t last.As soon as you stop taking the pills or doing the wraps, you WILL gain the weight back. You have to actively make a change to you lifestyle to see results that will last for years. That’s why focusing on getting fit and healthy is much more important than being skinny. If you want lasting results, you have to look at this as a LIFESTYLE CHANGE, not a diet. I know for me personally, I’m doing with the binge eating and the yo-yo dieting. I want to be fit and healthy. Not fashion model thin. It’s just not for me. I’m too short for that!

If you have any questions, or would like more information on how you can become a member in my next online fitness support group and learn how to be healthy, feel free to email me at or find me on Facebook at Kaycee Lou 🙂

I look forward to talking to you all soon! <3
Much love! *Mwah!


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